A Fresh Take On Fog
When adoptees talk about the fog they're describing being unaware of the impact being adopted or relinquished has had on them. If that's the case then I was in the fog for 40 years. I was adopted at 5 weeks old, told about with the aid of a story book before my parents adopted a little girl before my second birthday. We had a good life, lots of love and care. A good adoption. At 40 I found out that my childhood teddy bear was a gift from my birth mother. My first reaction was curiosity. Sharing this story 4 months later, I flew into a fit of rage directed towards my birth mother. Since then I've been trying to figure out how to be happy. Along the way I stumbled across this thing called fog. My conclusion? Fog isn't what most people think it is. I share what I've learned about fog here.
Healing Adoption Trauma - My Journey So Far
If everything you've done to heal hasn't worked, is it time to question everything? I was adopted at 5 weeks old. I'm 54 now. I was lucky - adoption trauma didn't hit me until I was 40. Here's what I've learned so far. It runs counter to pretty much everything every other person in the adoption space says. So I'm not asking you to believe me. Trust only yourself. Make your own mind up. If you want to find out more check out www.thrivingadoptees.com
The voice in the adoptee's head
Years ago people were locked up for saying they heard voices in their head but I've yet to meet someone who doesn't have one. They may not have realised it's not them. They may not have realised they have one. But they ALL have one. The negative voice in my head, the inner critic, the internal terrorist, the enemy within me started squawking early in my life. It really ramped up after some particularly nasty bullying when I was at scout camp. It grew louder as I grew older. Being adopted gave me a very specific and powerful reason to believe it. I did a million and one things to silence it. They didn't work. It just got louder as I fought back. In 2009 I finally learned what to do. Find out more at www.thrivingadoptees.com